Achieve Greatness Through People
Here are a few pointers on how to succeed in life through other people.
The most effective tool for growth and development in any business or venture is Word of Mouth. Think for a moment about this, people like you, enjoy your company and love you products and service, what do they do? They tell everyone they know about the great experience they’ve had with you, and how great your products and services are.
They recommend you, they promote and support you; they are your most valuable asset in the marketing of your business, product or service.
I’m sure that you have met people that, when they are placed in a room of strangers, they’ll become friends with almost everyone in no time. These people are many times called a peoples-person. They are normally very gregarious, charismatic and unbelievable friendly and nice. They can charm the birds out of the trees, so the old adage goes. They can win almost anyone over.
This is what is called a socially-empowered person. These people achieve so much in life and all because of the people that unwittingly catapult him to success. You see, this type of person earns the trust, respect and all-out support of the people that he comes into contact with. He always has help; he can basically do anything with the plethora of people behind him. And all because he knows how to maximize his social potential!
You see, if you know and understand your social skills, and you learn to make use of them, you will reach a place where you become self-empowered. Self-empowerment is basically overhauling your life and becoming a happier, more productive and more successful person. If you take the time to be one of those people-persons, then there is no reason why you will not succeed. You must just know how to begin, here are ten points that will help you become more of a peoples-person.
1. First and foremost Be Genuine.
Be genuine and authentic; be truly interested in people and what they have to say. Once they see that you are an honest and authentic person, they begin to trust you, to talk with you and let you in. Hypocrisy will bring you nothing but disappointment.
2. Learn to listen.
People place so much emphasis on learning to speak, that they forget about the fact that it is just as important if not more important to learn how to be a good listener. In order to earn the love and trust of people, you must learn listen to their problems and sympathize with them. Do not just hear them out, listen to them with your heart. Make eye contact when the person talks to you. Listen as if every word matters and it does. Their estimation of you sky rockets when they see that you have a confidante in you.
3. Learn to laugh.
I’m not talking about forcing yourself to laugh when someone cracks a joke, even if you don’t find it funny. But look for the humour in things; try not to be so serious. Lightheartedness in today’s world goes a long way to making people like you. A person with an awesome sense of humour attracts crowds and eventually, attracts success.
4. Don’t neglect yourself.
In the process of fluttering around like a social butterfly, you might forget yourself, allowing everyone to push you over. Remember, love and value yourself before anyone else. If you deem yourself respectable and worthy of affection, people will flock to you and not trample on you.
5. Do random acts of kindness.
You don’t have to blow your savings to charity. Little acts of kindness matters the most and this can be as simple as giving someone a surprise you-take-care card or simple motivational note or email. When we were young children in pr-school, kindness and respect was taught to us and regularly practiced. Now is the time to revive the good deeds and this time, let them stay for good.
6. Contact your old friends.
Sad how some friendships are destined to goodbye, but thanks to technology, you can do something about it. Relive the good old days by flipping your yearbook and look for the great people whom you want to communicate with again. Adding these old friends to your roster of support peers will surely make you feel good all over.
7. Learn to develop your personality.
Are you grouchy, grumpy and generally sad? Whoa, you can’t go through life with those. Get rid of the bad traits and habits that perpetually hamper your growth. And really, who wants a grouchy friend anyway?
8. Learn to be confident.
Be able to stride to the other corner of the room and introduce yourself to people with that winning smile of yours. Just remember: be confident, not arrogant.
9. Learn to practice self-control. (very important!)
When angry, don’t snap at everyone. Never throw a tantrum. Stay calm and collected. Be adult enough to take control of situation and transform your anger into something more productive and passive. As soon as people think your anger goes to volcanic proportions easily, they will find it hard to come to you.
Remember life is 10% of what happens to you and 90% of the way you respond.
10. Keep nurturing your relationships.
Your relationship with your family, friends and significant others is very precious, you should not neglect them whatever happens. Go out and have fun with them. Do things together. Happiness will never fly from your side as long as the people who matter the most are close to you.
Having said this, remember that in the end, using people for self-empowerment means becoming a better and more lovable person. It’s a win-win situation: the people know they can turn to you anytime and vice versa.
