Success or failure - What do you think?
You are probably aware of the fact that one of the reasons for under achievement is negative thinking. Did you know that your life is built upon yourself image and that image is the result of what you tell yourself? In choosing (and you do choose) to entertain negative thoughts, you have now attached a belief in your inability rather than in your possibility. Unfortunately it’s not just you!
There are plenty of people in your life that are ready and only too willing to spread the gloom and doom of why things don’t work out.
And reminding you of why you are not capable of achieving what you hope to. Sadly, family and friends can be the most pessimistic about your hopes and dreams. They are always ready to let you know why it will fail. Why it won’t work out.
Here, it is important to recognize that at times, those closest to you will be the first to shower negative rains on your dreams, because they don’t want to see you hurt when it fails. Sometimes, it’s because they are afraid of you developing and growing and leaving them behind, there will always be a deep underlying fear in the negative thoughts of others.
One of the most important things you can do in order to avoid under achievement is to learn to protect yourself from those that are negative soothsayers. Other people’s opinion of you is none of your business! Instead of allowing what others say about you to influence your goals and dreams, you need to remain focused on learning to develop the INNER strength required to achieve your dreams.
Negative input from other people will only affect you when you allow it to. Learn to brush it off. The time has come for you to develop a stronger belief in who you are and what you stand for.
But before you can tackle others, it’s important that you tackle yourself if you want to avoid under achievement. What do you think about yourself right now, and how is this affecting your goals, aspirations, dreams and achievements?
Remember you can’t change that which you don’t acknowledge. Acknowledgement and acceptance are always the keys towards changing negative conversations that bounce around in your mind.
Recognize and accept the fact that you have complete control over yourself and your thoughts. Unfortunately many people have it the other way around and make statements like “I can’t help it, I’ve always thought like this.” But the real truth is, you can help it. The fact is, if avoiding under achievement is your goal, then you should not only be working towards stopping it, but also towards changing the way you think too!
Once you are in a position where people can say whatever they like without you allowing it to affect what you think about yourself then your life becomes more peaceful and certain than it can ever be.
The question is, “Are you going to allow what people say be the reason you under achieve?”
Is the thoughts and opinions of others more important than the opinion you hold of yourself? Are you ready to tackle the negative thoughts that go on in your head (a quick tip? When you catch yourself thinking negative self-talk just shout - either out loud or in your head - “CANCEL” and then turn it round to something more affirming)
Maybe you are not aware of this, but thinking bigger, wanting more and working to some level of achievement can and does make you the target of negative messages from your friends, family, co-workers and even total strangers- most people enjoy the status quo.
However, when you have a strong conviction within yourself, when you work towards ensuring that all your thoughts empower you rather than dis-empower you, then you will be on the road towards changing the way you think and feel.
What you think and believe about YOURSELF will certainly be responsible for your success or whether you give up. Begin the journey by empowering yourself with thoughts of great things about who you are and just what you can achieve.
“Whether you believe YOU CAN, or whether you believe YOU CAN”T you are RIGHT” (Henry Ford)
Creative Problem Solving
Author: MarkCsabai
How many times have you found yourself saying that there is “no solution” to the problem before you - it’s a dead end and leads nowhere? You feel that there is no light at the end of the tunnel and that the problem just cannot be solved? There are no solutions that you are aware of.
Are there times that you feel you have exhausted all possible options and feel the mountain before you is still as large, unconquerable and impregnable as before? When you find yourself faced with such problems, it may feel as though you are hammering against a steel mountain. The stress and anxiety of having to solve such a problem can be overwhelming.
But be of “good cheer” for there maybe some hope yet!
Learning some “creative problem solving” techniques you will be able to view your problem from a different perspective. And that perspective may just be the light at the end of the proverbial tunnel that leads to possible solutions.
To begin with, in the respect of “creative problem solving” you MUST be open minded to the fact that there may be more than one solution to the problem, you must also be open to the fact that there may be solutions to problems that you thought were unsolvable.
Now, with this optimistic mindset, we can try to be a little bit more creative in solving our problems.
1) One of the reasons that we may not able to solve the problem is that we don’t really understand the problem.. Here, it is very important and an imperative to have a solid understanding of the problem and its workings in order for solving it. If you know what the problem is and how its workings, then you have a better foundation for solving the problem.
Try to make a simple statement of what the problem is. Try to understand its core components, participating entities and their relationship toward each other. Make a note of possible losses and gains from the problem.
2) Make a note of the constraints and assumptions you have possible created in your mind. Sometimes these assumptions obstruct our view of possible solutions. You will need to identify assumptions that are valid and those which need to be addressed.
3) Try to solve the problem in parts. Solve it by going from a general rule to more detailed parts of the problem. This is sometimes called the “top-down” approach. Write down questions and then come up with a one sentence solution for each of them. The solution should be a general statement of what will solve the problem. From this point you can develop the solution little by little as well as increase its complexity.
4) Critical thinking is important in these situations, but it is important that you also keep a creative and analytical voice at the back of your mind. When someone comes up with a possible solution, try to think of how you could make it work, be creative. And at the same time look for possible flaws in the solutions.
5) Remember that there may be more than one solution being developed at one time. Try to keep track of all possible solutions and their developments. Keep in mind, that there may be more than one solution to the problem.
6) The old adage “two heads are better than one” Always keep an open mind for new ideas, you can always benefit from ideas that others give, especially if that person has experience solving problems similar to yours.
Don’t try and be a “lone-wolf” or a solo hero to solve the problem. If at all possible collective thought on the subject, will always be the better route.
7) Be patient, because as long as you persevere, there is always a chance that a solution will present itself.
Creative thinking in all facets of life whether it be in designing a new product or in this case, problem solving will always give you clarity and direction in bringing about the desired action.
Creative thinking exercises can also help you be a more creative problem solver.
There are may exercise available on the Internet just Google Creative thinking exercises.
One example is to write down on a piece of paper any word that comes to your mind. Now look at the word for a few moments and then write down the first two words that come to your mind. This can go on until you can build a tree of related words. This exercise helps you build analogical skills, as well as strengthen your creative processes.
So, next time you come across a problem you think you cannot solve, think again. The solution may even be staring you in the face. All it takes is a little creative thinking, some planning and a lot of hard work.
About the Author:
Visionary with wide experience in all aspects of Life, able to communicate and elaborate goals and objectives clealry and concisley.
Have vision, motivation and drive to see what ever I do succeed, but most off all to help, lead and guide others through life to success.
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